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Today at work, while on a break, I overheard my boss talking to someone. He talked about this colleague of mine who's cut hours at work months ago because she couldn't handle it anymore. She's on sick leave the rest of the time. He said how he couldn't understand how she couldn't manage to just work when she had so few children in her class and no problem children either. He couldn't understand how she could have visited some kind of counselor for over 12 years and still hadn't progressed much. He talked about how her daughter is already the same and how the whole family is actually just weird.
He said some more, but couldn't hear it all, and also can't remember it all. But I was upset though. Because I didn't expect it from him, but also because he's just not honest about everything.
This colleague, like me, is an HSP. She's very sensitive, maybe more than me. She struggles with life now though. Work isn't the issue, life is. But it affects her work. You can't see anything on the outside, which makes it hard for people to understand.
What gets to me though, is that my boss doesn't understand either, but isn't honest about it. He tells her one thing, but then, apparently, talks behind her back and blames her.
Most people I work with love to work. Love to be busy. They often express how you shouldn't complain, just do things without thinking too much about it. They often express themselves in a way that makes it sound like they are right, about everything and that when you don't agree, there's something wrong with you.
They often tend to judge things they can't understand, though never really tell in your face.
Anyway...it left me confused. Because what will he then think of me? Does he also say those things about me, because I'm sensitive as well, have said how I get overwhelmed easily etc...And I find it so unfair of him. At least be man enough and say to this other colleague where you stand and how you feel. Don't give them some fake comfort.
It also makes me feel weak. Don't show your sensitive side or you will be judged.
I'm so confused I can't even think straight. Should I talk to him and confront him with what I overheard? I just don't want to be the one and only person, again, who speaks her mind. Makes me feel so alone in all of this.
Ugh....
He said some more, but couldn't hear it all, and also can't remember it all. But I was upset though. Because I didn't expect it from him, but also because he's just not honest about everything.
This colleague, like me, is an HSP. She's very sensitive, maybe more than me. She struggles with life now though. Work isn't the issue, life is. But it affects her work. You can't see anything on the outside, which makes it hard for people to understand.
What gets to me though, is that my boss doesn't understand either, but isn't honest about it. He tells her one thing, but then, apparently, talks behind her back and blames her.
Most people I work with love to work. Love to be busy. They often express how you shouldn't complain, just do things without thinking too much about it. They often express themselves in a way that makes it sound like they are right, about everything and that when you don't agree, there's something wrong with you.
They often tend to judge things they can't understand, though never really tell in your face.
Anyway...it left me confused. Because what will he then think of me? Does he also say those things about me, because I'm sensitive as well, have said how I get overwhelmed easily etc...And I find it so unfair of him. At least be man enough and say to this other colleague where you stand and how you feel. Don't give them some fake comfort.
It also makes me feel weak. Don't show your sensitive side or you will be judged.
I'm so confused I can't even think straight. Should I talk to him and confront him with what I overheard? I just don't want to be the one and only person, again, who speaks her mind. Makes me feel so alone in all of this.
Ugh....